Dawn Loves Buttercups

St Germaine: Come in soul, you are most welcome, look around you and see if there is any particular way you would like to work through the next life you choose and the contract you will make with the parents you choose. Like all souls you have much Karma to work through as well as the Karma you will produce in your lifetime on earth in this next visit

My Soul: I feel a deep need to know more about human love and how to avoid attachments and not to get hurt; can I learn to love yet still keep my heart safe?

St Germaine: It depends on what Love Contract you choose during your next lifetime and the lessons you want to learn from it. Humanity has forgotten that there is Love and then there is love. Sometimes the two will be intertwined, and at others you can choose to experience one without the other. When it happens simultaneously, that’s when you learn to love truly and completely and it is the best form of Love. You rise in love, and yes it will still be painful, but if will be the most rewarding. If you chose at times to have one without the other you will experience a different sort of pain and you will learn many lessons.

My Soul: Well, then I will choose Love and love please. May the lessons I learn add to my spiritual growth and the heartcentre space be kept as pure and kind as possible. May the hurt and pain be blessed with understanding and reality and may the outcome be for the highest good of all

Thus I embarked on this life armed with curiosity and full of mischief to parents who were ill matched and had never known what it was like to really love, so they could not teach me in the accepted sense, but by having those parents I learnt how to love as I stepped into the world growing in knowledge and ability.

My contract was to choose parents who, although they may have known love, did not know how to express it, that I was to learn how to love and how not to love by experiencing some very tough and harsh lessons, sexual trauma as a child, a divorce not of my choosing and then many years after a second marriage leaving another controlling relationship and death, to finally understand that when you really deeply love another person, you want them to be happy and free. 

All of this comes with great pain, and anyone who reads this, will have – at some time, experienced many of the difficulties that being a human in a loving relationship brings. it is only by understanding that we made this contract with God, long before our life began, that we know that the pain that comes with love comes from us, not from Love/love, not from the other person, but truly from ourselves. And it is up to us to deal with that pain alone. In the same way that our happiness is not dependant on another, neither are the feelings we experience, they are ours, produced by us and to be processed by us. To project that pain onto another is not only morally wrong, but it serves no purpose in working through our karmic account. it is what it is.

I will always love and Love, this wonderful person and I know he and I will always be great friends until the end of our days, even if it is not to be spent together, we will always find time for each other. Real, friendship is the purest form of love even when it can take us to great spiritual highs and lows. It has such a solid base of spirituality, compatibility, humour, intellect and acceptance of each other, that it cannot be destroyed by anything or anyone. What does destroy love/Love is loss of respect, control, jealousy, anger, and all the other negative human emotions. We ignore this at our peril because that destroys the very reason for loving – giving of oneself not as a servant, but as a server.

Does it still hurt ? Yes. Can I work through it, yes simply because of what remains that is so special and worthwhile?  It is not about becoming a doormat and being walked over, nor is it accepting crumbs from a table, it is understanding the very nature of the most beautiful gift of love, that, along with our bodies and the blessing of sexuality God has given us. 

So do not worry, as I know that I have learnt this about real love/Love. When you truly care for another, their happiness is more important than your own. Live your life to the full, be inquisitive, make new friends, but never ever think you can replace someone. They may fill a hole in your heart, but the beautiful memory of who they are and what they mean to you will always stay with you.

Namaste